first thing you may say is, “What! How can that be
discovering that my time was limited and coming to an end
with a being I loved more deeply than any other, I was in
shock. Nothing; no amount of spiritual awareness or enlightenment
can prepare you for this. At least that’s what I thought.
The unreal aspect of it was overwhelming. It felt like I
was in a dense fog. So...then you go through the so-called
stages of grief. And you realize that the things that used
to irritate you no longer seem important. In fact, many
aspects of life, seemingly meaningful, lose their importance,
for there will be a day when that very thing will be what
you miss most dearly.
of the lessons in loss has been impermanence. The concept
didn’t fully sink in before. But loss brings us there
squarely; to the truth – to many truths. One of which
is, that all things are impermanent and do eventually end
in the way we know them – AND we discover that when
everything falls away, love is all there is. Truly.
ironically feels like the deepest pain you could possibly
endure and at the same time, the most profoundly deep love.
Both are magical. Loss teaches us about this - and can be
one of life’s grandest gifts.
the “rawness” each moment becomes precious.
Every nuance of that being becomes so very precious. Time
takes on new meaning. And then if we really get it, it translates
and extends itself out to everything and everyone. Things
slow down and there is hope that each treasured memory will
remain intact as the years pass. With every encounter we
now look deeply into the eyes of each person or being, honouring
the impermanence of the moment, not wanting to miss one
single thing. Being truly present in all ways is our way
of being now.
is no more running away, no more denying but sitting in
the face of the truth, of all that really matters –
Pure unconditional love.