matter what the physical gender of our bodies, we each have
some qualities usually associated with the opposite gender.
In the Zohar, books of Jewish mysticism, it is written “The
Blessed Holy One does not place [its] abode in any place
where male and female are not found together.” We
would find no reason to be attracted to one another if we
didn’t see at least a little of ourselves in one another.
Bringing these two forms of duality into harmony and balance
within ourselves makes it possible to integrate them and
can result in our being able to live, feel and be peace.
Here are a few ways to get started.
1. Follow your interest. Is there something
you’ve always been interested in but never pursued
because it’s usually associated with the opposite
sex? Go ahead and pursue it. There is probably something
about it that you’ll find relates to your gender as
well. Anything that moves you outside of your comfort zone
is an opportunity to engage a part of yourself you may be
out of touch with. Once you get through the initial discomfort
and start to enjoy it, you’ll feel more balanced and
2. When you are upset about something,
say the following words to yourself to determine which viewpoint
you’re using. Feminine: we, our, community,
the potential to receive
Masculine: I, me, individual, the capacity to overflow
Then say the key words for the opposite viewpoint. Bringing
them together provides space for a solution to present itself.
3. Bach Flower and Flower Essence Remedies
are homeopathically prepared liquids which address issues
of emotional well being, soul development and mind-body
health. They can gently and peacefully help you get in touch
with an opposite viewpoint.
Rev. Hellenberg’s contact
info can be found in the Peace Ministers Directory of this
When sending an e-mail, please write “ Return to Oneness”
in the subject line.